Just read a blog post 'explaining' to
me that I can not call myself 'pro-life' or even a Christian for that
matter, if I do not adopt from another country.
It got me to thinking. And I realized,
I am pro-choice! I have seen the error of my ways.
And so though I have been silent about
many a subject recently in all the political and social events of the
time, I have decided to break my silence about this matter.
I am pro-choice.
I am pro your choice to have sex before
you are married and ready to take on the responsibility of kids {as
in a government should not be able to step in and say you can't}. In
the same regard, I am pro your choice to keep your legs together/keep
it in your pants and wait until you are mature enough and stable
enough to handle something like sex.
I am pro your choice to work another
job to make ends meet when you have gotten pregnant and had a child
{in or out of wedlock}just as I am pro your choice to tuck your tail
between your legs and go to your local Churches and believers for
help.
Scripture tells us that we have been
given free will. God has allowed you choice. So I suppose He is pro
choice as well. He has given us the choice to choose Him or hell. To
choose to follow in His freedom, or be shackled and chained by the
ways of the world. To choose a life of joy following after Him, or
search till the day we die for a meaning to this sad pathetic life!
He has even given us the choice as well, to have children or not, to
have sex or not, to be parents or not.
And so I am also pro your choice to be
wrong if you choose to do so. {doenst mean I am not going to try to
stop you from being wrong....but thats another point}
So I suppose, if we are going to allow
it to be said that people in the pro-life side can't be called
pro-life but must be called pro-birth {Which, I gotta say, birth is
something I am a huge fan of as well!} then pro-choice must also
alter their platform name as well. In reality, they are not
pro-choice, but anti-consequence. They want not only the choice to
have sex or not {Which they already do} but to also then to have the
choice to do away with that which is a normal, logical, and natural
outcome of said choice.
The writer of this blog that I read
today asserted, as is a common trend I have heard many times over,
that Christians should not speak to the subject of abortion unless
they first are directly working with orphans and bringing them into
their homes through adoption. Now, I am completely all for adoption.
I love it. I love what it does. But I don't think for a second that
someone must adopt in order to call themselves pro-life. I also don't
think that taking care of the orphans and widows means that every
Christ follower must adopt! I know plenty of people who have never
adopted who are far from what you could call anti life and only
'pro-birth' {even the statement 'pro-birth' just seems silly to me,
but that is besides the point!} The thing that is often not taken
into account with this argument is that the people to whom you are
{usually} speaking when talking about the pro-life, anti abortion,
pro-choice debate, are Americans. Or at the very least North
Americans. America doesn't have an orphan problem. What we have is an
infanticide problem. We have the heinous murder of millions of
children going on, and therefore as Christians, and others who are
against the wiping out of those without a voice, we must stand for
the ban of legal murder of these lives. Adopting a child from China,
Haiti, Bulgaria, or Africa, while something I highly recommend, is
not going to stop Susie Jones in Middletown America from having her
child burned in the womb or sucked out bit by bit! Furthermore, the
vast majority of those who are pro-life take it a step back and don't
just say “Don't murder your child!” we say “Stop having sex if
you don't want a kid!” We HAVE a solution in which no one is harmed
and LIFE is actually protected in ever sense of the word! In other
words, adopting from a country that has a problem with abandoning
their children will not help our own countries problem of murdering
ours! It is completely possible to stand against the problems in both
country, or even just one!
This subject, and all of its tangents
and angles and debate points, is very near and dear to me. I am a 32
year old, unmarried, virgin who daily longs to have a husband and
kids. I physically hurt at the thought that I might never myself be
able to give birth to a child. It stabs me knowing that countless
numbers of selfish women {and men, for that matter. But the issue of
abortion is usually that of the womans doing.} take the 'choice' they
have to make a child or not, and use it in such a disgusting manner.
I ache to have a baby. Down to my very core, I want to be a mother. I
want to have everything they are throwing away.
Another tactic often implemented is to
say that if you knew someone who 'had' to have an abortion for some
reason, you would feel differently. Only, I do know someone who had
an abortion and it didn't change my feelings on it one bit. I think
the reason this has all come to a head now for me, and spurred me on
to write this blog post, is actually BEACUSE of that person I know
who had an abortion. She told me after the fact. Months after she had
allowed someone to take her child out of her body and toss him aside,
she told me she had consciously made the decision not to call me when
it was happening. Why? Because I would have talked her out of it. I
told her I would have flown to her home state and been there for his
birth {she was rather far along already, and he would have been very
sick} and if she did not want to care for him, I would have taken him
home as my own. I was at school in China at the time, but I would
have given up my dream of learning the language with that one phone
call. And she knew it. Which is why she didnt call me. I live with
that all the time. I live with knowing that I could have been a
mother. That she is a mother, but has nothing to show for it. He
would have been four this year. It was around this time of year that
she told me about it all, and so it comes to mind and I have mourned
his death every year around now since then. It didnt change my mind
about abortion knowing someone who had one. And I told her that
straight. I told her that I hoped she never forgot him, that she
remembered he had a name, he had a face, he had a heartbeat, that he
was hers, that he could have lived, that he is gone! But I remember
him for her in case she has managed to let it all slip from her mind.
I cry for what could have been.
So, sure I will be pro choice! I am pro choice in
the fact that you have the choice to go to hell or to find truth and
live in that. I will be pro choice because you already HAVE the choice, it isnt something that has to be given to you. But beyond that....
I am Pro-consequence.
I am Anti-murder
I am Anti-abandonment of your child
I am Anti-putting yourself above your
offspring
I am Pro-taking responsibility
I am pro-birth.
I am pro life
I am pro child
I am pro family
If you are pregnant, keep your child!
No matter what!
And as I write this blog, I cry for the
little boy who could have been mine and should have been given a
chance. You, young sir, have not been forgotten. And I will never
stop fighting for the right you were denied. I'm sorry I got there too late.
